first had to apt-get remove resolvconf (weird ubuntu auto thing) so I can use a static ip address next I had to manually create sudo vi /etc/resolv.conf (nameserver 8.8.8.8)

(note this is assuming you're using the gui enabled lxde ubuntu)

sudo apt-get install vino sudo vi /usr/share/applications/vino-preferences.desktop

comment out so that it looks like #OnlyShowIn=GNOME;Unity

[Desktop Entry] Name=Desktop Sharing Comment=Choose how other users can remotely view your desktop Exec=vino-preferences Icon=preferences-desktop-remote-desktop Terminal=false Type=Application StartupNotify=true Categories=GNOME;GTK;Settings;X-GNOME-NetworkSettings;RemoteAccess;Network;

OnlyShowIn=GNOME;Unity;

X-GNOME-Bugzilla-Bugzilla=GNOME X-GNOME-Bugzilla-Product=vino X-GNOME-Bugzilla-Component=Preferences Dialog X-GNOME-Bugzilla-Version=3.3.3 X-Ubuntu-Gettext-Domain=vino

start manually with /usr/lib/vino/vino-server
OR make it an autostart

sudo vi /etc/xdg/lxsession/Lubuntu/autostart @/usr/lib/vino/vino-server

UNNECESSARY? vino-preferences (by default for security it does not allow remote connections)

Preferences -> Desktop session Settings -> Desktop Sharing Service (doesn't help?)

did I have to sudo apt-get install xrdp , then later apt-get purge xrdp Start -> Preferences -> Desktop Sharing